I’ve heard that in a relationship, as long as you like or get along with the person 51% of the time, it’s a good thing. If it’s 49% of the time, you’re in trouble and you may want to re-think the relationship. It’s funny what a few percentage points can do. Just like in high school, how getting a 64% score on an algebra test as opposed to a 65% score would make the difference between whether I was going to be able to sleep-in on those wonderful days of summer or have to get my butt up to make the early morning classes of summer school. Well, my just under “par-centage” algebra scores had me doing the latter each and every summer of my teenage high school years. Yikes.
I’m not quite sure I buy into this percentage philosophical take on relationships. In fact, it is quite a dream popper to believe that I can expect to have relationships (whether lover, spouse, family, friends, co-workers et al) that will piss me off 49% of the time! That’s almost constantly! Rather often! Quite consistently! I guess however, if I really think about it, it is a kind of reality.
I remember someone told me that their father once told them to make sure to seek out and focus on the characteristics they like about each person they meet. As each person will undoubtedly have traits that will bother the heave-ho out of them. That if they don’t put these “bothers” to the side and focus on the good stuff, they will inevitably end up going through people like water and end up like little isolated monkees. Well come to think of it, monkees aren’t an isolated type breed but you know what I mean. I also just realized that I spelled monkees incorrectly (or did I?) and spelled it like the tv show with Davy Jones back in the 70′s (or was it the 60′s?). That Davy was so cute back then (not as cute as my favorites Shaun Cassidy, Scott Baio, Jimmy McNichol, Leif Garrett, The Fonz, Steven Tyler and David Lee Roth) but that’s an entirely whole other blog! I don’t even know if I spelled Davy correctly. With the possible mis-spelling of the word monkeys and Davy, it is a lucky thing I wasn’t back in high school. I would be having to make the english summer classes too.
In any event, I’ve been learning my lesson about “accepting the bad with the good” when it comes to people (and life as a matter of fact) over and over again and realize that I too may only be adored (LOL!) only 51% of the time (I’m hoping I even make that percentage!) and I too probably don’t live up to others expectations on a regular basis. That I can choose to see how fortunate I am to be accepted for my faults of character within my relationships and in order to live sanely and happy, I have to do the same with others.
Of course if there is anyone in ones life that one outright disagrees with their morals, values or is treated badly by them, those are the relationships to end and not put up with. With regards to accepting people, I’m talking about the general grievances and failed expectations and personality differences that I’m learning to “take the bitter with the better” so to speak. I realize that along with my own feelings or hardships in life, that the negatives of my relationships pass too and I’m learning to ride them out. Like the saying, which I don’t recall in it’s original articulate form, but it goes something like…. recognizing the beauty of the rose even with it’s thorns.
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